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A dream worth another chance
What dream deserves another chance?
Becoming
What are you becoming?
New name
If you could rename yourself for this chapter of your life, what would the name be — and why?
Quiet talent
What talent do you possess that you rarely acknowledge?
Quiet talents
What is something you are quietly good at that no one praises you for?
The room of yourself
If your inner life were a room, what does it look like today — and what does it need?
The version of me I miss
Which version of yourself do you miss most — and what did they know that you forgot?
What survived
What part of yourself survived every hardship?
Without the labels
Who are you without your job, title, diagnosis, addiction, or accomplishments?
Your younger self admires
What would your younger self admire about you today?
A note to day one
What would you tell yourself on your first day of treatment?
First honest sentence
What is the most honest sentence you could say about where you are right now?
Lost and gained
What is one thing you lost and one thing you gained?
One degree shift
What is one small thing you could shift this week that would change your whole direction?
The cost of pretending
What has pretending to be okay cost you?
The lie of addiction
What lie did addiction tell you?
The truth recovery revealed
What truth did recovery reveal?
Unexpected gifts
What has recovery given you that you never expected?
Angry and grateful
Describe a moment you felt angry and grateful in the same breath.
Excited + Guilty
Describe a time when both excited and guilty were true at the same time.
Grateful + Angry
Describe a time when both grateful and angry were true at the same time.
Hopeful + Afraid
Describe a time when both hopeful and afraid were true at the same time.
Hopeful and afraid
Where in your life are you hopeful and afraid at the same time?
Lonely in company
When have you felt loneliest while surrounded by people?
Proud + Lonely
Describe a time when both proud and lonely were true at the same time.
Proud and ashamed
Name something you feel both proud and ashamed of.
Tender and tired
When were you last both tender and tired? What did that combination need?
Failure as gift
What failure became a gift?
Painful change for the better
What painful event changed you for the better?
Secretly grateful
What mistake are you secretly grateful for?
Strength revealed
What challenge revealed your strength?
The day I decided
Describe the day you decided. Not the day you started — the day you decided.
The small no
Tell us about a small no that turned out to be a big yes.
The unsent text
What was the message you almost sent that would have changed everything?
The worst day that helped
What was the worst day that ultimately helped you?
A problem worth solving
What problem would you like to help solve?
Enough for today
What would be enough for today — not impressive, just enough?
If work was optional
If work was optional, how would you contribute to the world?
The legacy
What legacy would you like to leave?
The small thing that lights me up
What is a small, almost embarrassingly ordinary thing that lights you up?
The work that picks me
What kind of work or care keeps picking you, even when you try to walk away?
Unlimited money
If you had unlimited money, what would you do every day?
Useful to whom
Who do you want to be useful to in this season of your life, and why them?
A family rule, named
What was an unspoken rule in your family — and what is it doing in your life today?
Expectations
What expectation was placed on you growing up?
Family rule
What family rule still affects your life today?
The child you were
If you could sit with the child you were at age 8, what would you want them to know?
The kitchen of childhood
Picture the kitchen of your childhood. Who was there, and what did the room feel like?
Unlearning
What lesson from childhood are you trying to unlearn?
What I made of it
Tell us about something hard from your childhood and one thing you made of it.
Your role
What role did you play in your family?
Direction-changer
Who changed the direction of your life?
Greatest teacher
What relationship taught you the most?
Loved when unlovable
Who loved you when you felt unlovable?
My part in the pattern
In a relationship pattern you keep repeating, what is your part — kindly told?
Still echoing
What relationship still impacts you today?
The friend I want to be
Describe the kind of friend you want to be in the next year. What is one move toward that this week?
The person who saw me
Who is someone who saw something in you before you could see it? What did they see?
The repair I owe
Is there a small repair you have been avoiding — and what is one sentence you could say?
A weather report from inside
Give a weather report from inside you this week. Include forecast.
Addiction as character
If your addiction was a fictional character, who would it be?
My life as a song
If your life right now were a song, what would the title be and what is the chorus?
Object as self-portrait
Choose one object in this room. Tell us how it is a self-portrait of you today.
Recovery as movie
If your recovery was a movie, what would the title be?
The map of this year
Draw, in any shape, the map of the last year of your life. Add a legend.
The soundtrack
What songs would the soundtrack of your recovery include?
Who plays you
What actor would play you in the movie of your life?
Fear at the wheel
What fear has the most control over your decisions?
Pretending not to hurt
What are you pretending does not hurt?
Self-forgiveness
What do you need to forgive yourself for?
The story I keep telling
What is a story you keep telling about yourself that you are not sure is still true?
The truth you avoid
What truth are you avoiding?
Tired of carrying
What are you tired of carrying?
Autobiography title
What would your autobiography be called?
Life as Yelp review
If your life was a Yelp review, what would it say?
One text from future you
If your future self sent you one text message, what would it say?
One-question interview
You can ask one question of any human, living or dead. What is the question, and who is the person?
Reliving one day
If you could relive one day, which would it be and why?
The bench
You sit on a park bench beside the person you most needed to meet right now. Who is it, and what do they say?
The cabinet
You open a cabinet in your house and find one thing you forgot you had. What is it, and what do you do?
Three calls from your eighty-year-old self
Your eighty-year-old self calls you three times this week. What does each call say?
Inherited silence
What is a silence in your family that someone needs to finally break — and could it be you?
Loving disruption
What is something disruptive you could do this month, out of love rather than anger?
My quiet rebellion
What is a quiet rebellion you have already been living, that you have never named?
Speak up
When did staying quiet cost you more than speaking up would have?
The rule worth breaking
Which rule that you grew up with might be worth quietly breaking now?
Where I went along
Where in your life have you been going along with something that does not fit you anymore?
Worth the trouble
What is worth getting into good trouble for?
A warning
What would your future self warn you about?
Five years on this path
What does your life look like in five years if you stay on this path?
Letter from five years out
Write a short letter from your future self, five years from now, thanking present-you for one specific thing.
Letter from year five
Write a letter from your future self, five years sober, to who you are today.
One habit to start
What habit would your future self most want you to start this month — and why that one?
One habit to start
What habit would your future self want you to start?
Permission slip
What permission does your future self give you that you have been denying yourself?
Thank you for today
What would your future self thank you for today?
The warning
What would your future self gently warn you about, if they could call you tonight?
Two paths
Describe two paths your life could take from here. Which one is your future self walking?
A thank-you I want to hear
Imagine a thank-you you would love to hear someday from someone you love. What does it say?
How they will remember
How do you want people to remember the way you made them feel?
One craft I want to pass on
Name one thing — a skill, a recipe, a way of seeing — you want to teach someone before you die.
Pass it down
What is one piece of hard-won wisdom you want to pass down?
The lineage I want to leave
What do you want to be true for the people who come after you, that was not true for you?
The sentence on my bench
If someone built a bench in your honor in a place you love, what sentence would be carved on it?
The story they tell
When the people who knew you tell a story about you in twenty years, what do you hope the story is about?
What I am building quietly
What are you building quietly, that you would want to outlast you?